Article by Anna D'Arcy, Life & Executive Coach, Seachange Now
Are you an Introvert, an Extrovert or somewhere in between? In the past it was suggested that we are either one or the other but in the words of Carl Jung there is “No such thing as pure introvert or extrovert - such a person would be in the lunatic asylum”!
The more people I speak with as a Coach the more true this has become for me. The term 'ambivert' means that many of us are a mixture of both introversion & extroversion. While we may be happy working in an open plan office for example, we are also comfortable with spending time alone in our own thoughts.
By definition, Introverts can recharge their own batteries. In fact spending time alone in thought is the perfect way to re-energise as an Introvert. Introverts think to speak - the process must be well thought out before the words come out. For Introverts, the biggest fears are confrontation & embarrassment so the well thought out process makes sense when you view it through this filter. Introverts can use past experience for present decision making.
Extroverts, on the other hand, get energy from outside of themselves. They speak to think - only when the thoughts are out of the head do they make sense or not. Extroverts biggest fears are losing control & being disapproved of. Extroverts are future focussed so they often make quick decisions asking for forgiveness rather than permission. “Extroverts cannot understand life until they have lived it…Introverts cannot live life until they understand it” - Isobel Briggs Myers
So, given all that logic, an ambivert is a mix of both. What are you? Do you find that depending on the situation you can dip into both? Can you recognise when your introverted/extroverted energies need to be recharged? The really important thing to realise and appreciate for all is that neither is better than the other. We all have a place and we all have a purpose and as Susan Cain beautifully says, we all have our time to shine.