Article by Anna D'Arcy, Life & Executive Coach, Seachange Now
Creating behavioural change is not easy, as anyone who has tried will validate! It begins with acknowledging that you actually need to make a change in the first place which can be difficult. Why would I change after all these years?? Haven't I always behaved this way and aren't I grand??? After a coaching session with Brendan a few months ago, I figured out that I wasn't as grand as I thought I was! I decided to work on a couple of areas of my personality that just weren't serving me anymore.
It is estimated that it takes approx. 66 days to create or break a habit so I knew that there was going to be a bit of falling off the wagon during this time. I downloaded the 5 States Tracker App to help remind myself of the things that I had set out to change. I set the tracker to question me every day at 5.30pm on whether I had achieved my goal that day or not. Sometimes I agreed wholeheartedly that yes, I had knocked it out of the ballpark that day, but on many other days I couldn't put my hand on my heart to say that I had achieved my intentions. But rather than giving up, I knew that I would be getting that notification again the following day at 5.30pm so I would try again and again. The app almost acted like an accountability buddy - I didn't want to let it down!!
As the 66th day approached I noticed that the ballpark days became more frequent & my behaviours became more habitual. I will probably revert to type at times of stress or strife in my life but even the realisation that I can change has been hugely reaffirming for me.
With our new ways of working many clients that I am speaking with at the moment are finding that they are working way more hours at home than they would be if they were in the office. One suggestion that some are finding useful is setting the 5 States Tracker App in the evening. This has a double benefit. It reminds you of your goals but it can also be an alarm to punctuate your workday. Everyone agrees that structure and routine are key to bringing some balance into our lives at the moment - every trick & tool helps :)
You can download the app here: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.seachange.tracker&gl=IE (Android) https://apps.apple.com/ie/app/5-states-tracker/id1484981928 (Apple) If you would like any help in setting up your questions/goals please do get in touch: email@example.com #coachinghelps #5States #seachangenow #meaningfullife #behaviouralchange