Article by Anna D'Arcy, Life & Executive Coach, Seachange Now
One of the philosophies that we use in the Seachange Now is that “All are my equal” and given our current situation never has that been more true. This pandemic has no social class; it doesn’t single out any particular race or creed; it has affected royalty and those who are the most vulnerable in our society. Covid 19 has been the biggest leveller of our time.
So, how can we use this knowledge to our advantage?
Everyone is saying things are going to change so much post-Covid but that seems to be where the conversation ends! What does that change actually look like for us as individuals? We have this amazing opportunity right now to choose what aspects of our belief systems do we want to hold onto post-Covid and also are there any beliefs that we could do with getting rid of? Are they holding us back in some way?
As human beings our fundamental desires are to be loved and to be enough or valued. If we hold the belief that we are less than someone else, how can we ever achieve that desire to be enough?
Likewise, if we hold the belief that we are better than someone else, how easy will we be to love? Or indeed to give love – will anyone ever be good enough?
When we truly believe that all are my equal our empathy for each other as human beings improve. When we see others as mirror images of ourselves, we can easily step into their shoes and try to see the world as they see it. It is a very freeing feeling to believe that nobody is better or worse than you. You are starting from a level playing field in the relationship if both are invested in an equal way.
For example, suddenly, that presentation in front of the Board of Directors that you have been agonising over for weeks doesn’t seem so daunting. When you start to see the world through their eyes, you can see that they too have fears, some which they have overcome, but others that may be holding them back. When we show our vulnerability and decide that being vulnerable is actually a strength, rather than a weakness, we can logically decide that even if we make a mistake, at least we will have done our best.
Like many of you over the last couple of months, a daily walk or two has become the norm. I have loved seeing people out walking in their casual gear, clearly on work calls but surrounded by whinging kids and barking dogs. These individuals, usually donning something more formal, usually dynamic, possibly even feared, are behaving in a very human and equal way. I find this so refreshing – perhaps on the other side of the phone is empathy, understanding and maybe even homework being supervised!
So, what do you want to change post-Covid 19? Do you have a limiting belief where you either feel inferior or superior to somebody around you? Use this pause in our usual busy lives to reflect on whether that is serving you or not. Only you can choose to be just enough. #seachangenow #coaching #5States #allaremyequal